The Effects of Shame on Mental Health

Shame can be defined as the painful feeling that arises when we believe that we have failed to live up to the expectations of ourselves or others. It is a common and natural emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their lives, but when it becomes chronic and pervasive, it can be toxic to mental health.

Shame can lead to a number of negative psychological consequences, including anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and feelings of worthlessness. It can also have physical consequences, such as increased stress levels and a weakened immune system. This is because shame is a stress response that triggers the release of cortisol, the body's stress hormone.

Keeping things internally hidden, or keeping our shame hidden from others, can also be harmful to our mental health. This is because shame thrives in secrecy and silence. When we keep our shame hidden, we are denying ourselves the opportunity to get the support and understanding we need to heal and grow. It also reinforces the belief that our shame is something to be ashamed of, perpetuating the cycle of shame.

On the other hand, sharing our shame with others can be incredibly liberating and healing. It allows us to realize that we are not alone in our struggles, and that others have experienced similar feelings of shame and self-doubt. It can also help us gain a new perspective on our situation and find new ways of thinking and coping.

Shame can be toxic to our mental health when it becomes chronic and pervasive. Keeping our shame hidden can also prevent us from making positive changes in our lives. It's important to recognize the harmful effects of shame and to seek support and understanding from others to overcome it.

Written by Nicole Paolucci LMHC